It's not the easiest thing to do but God does command us to do it.
In Matthew 18, Peter asks Jesus how many times we are expected to forgive one another. I think he was a bit surprised by the answer.
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Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but until seventy times seven." Matthew 18:21-22
Yep. I am quite sure that Peter wasn't expecting that kind of number to roll out!
As much as we may try to flee from it and justify the fact that we haven't yet done it, at the end of the day, Christ still instructs us to forgive. He is telling Peter to be less concerned with how many times a brother or fellow man must be forgiven but yet to always forgive them.
We, especially as Christians, ought to be an example of people who are able to forgive. Have we not been forgiven the most?
Here's a thought I had a few weeks ago: If I were the only person, the only person ever on earth that needed Jesus Christ to go to the cross and bleed and die for my sins, not the sins of the world but just MY sins, He still would have done it. He still would have been mocked, beaten, spit upon and crucified...if just for me.
That is a lofty thought and yet today as I was considering the subject of forgiveness, I contemplated, "well, what if, on the way up Calvary's mountain, my cross became too much to bear? What if at that very moment, Christ thought of me, thought of my sin and decided, "No. I'm sorry but I cannot forgive you, Amy. I can forgive all the other sins but not this one. That sin just simply hurts too much."
Could you imagine? Could you imagine Christ determining that He would forgive some but not all your sins?
No. We can't imagine it because He does forgive sins...ALL sins. Why do we then pick and choose which sins we can forgive of others? We ought not to, Christian.
"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice. And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:31-32
That's right. By us forgiving one another, it is an example, a picture if you will, of the forgiveness we have been given by God.
One of the biggest reasons I think Christians (myself included) have such a hard time forgiving one another is the wretched old five letter word: Pride.
When you have not forgiven a person, the fellowship and relationship you've had and experienced with that person is altered. It is changed. Being around each other is often filled with tension. There is a big ol' elephant in the room and no one wants to be the one to address it.
But that big ol' elephant, well, most likely his name is pride.
"Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom." Proverb 13:10.
Oh that pride. If we can get a handle on it. Luckily for us, we can ask God to give us the humility we need in order to forgive. Like the many other things we fall short of being capable of, the ability to forgive someone can be given to us from Him (the ultimate forgiver).
I can attest to that as well. For a long time I had an unforgiving spirit and heart towards another Christian. It doesn't matter if I was right or wrong in the matter. I carried around unforgiveness and pride in my heart for months. Whenever I saw that person, thought about them or heard their name, those prideful thoughts came floating to the forefront of my mind. "Oh yeah, them. Hmmm. I still can't believe they did me that injustice. Why can't they see it? When are they going to realize their wrong-doing and finally apologize to me?!"
Oh how wrong and wicked and prideful those thoughts are!! Notice all the "I"s and "me"s. Pride is written all over those thoughts. If those are filling our minds and hearts, how could we even consider forgiving someone, we have too much hate built up in our hearts.
The truth is that if we honestly desire to forgive someone, to begin to regain the fellowship that was lost, we have to humble ourselves. We have to humble ourselves enough to make room for God to come in and give us His perfect peace over the matter and His perfect forgiveness. A humble heart is a forgiving heart and forgiveness is Christianity in action.
My mother always taught us to forgive quickly. Whenever us kids would fight, she would remind us that we ought not to let time pass and hold a grudge against each other as we never know what tomorrow may hold. She has experienced great loss in her life, losing her father and all her brothers before she was 23. She would always teach us and remind us to forgive each other as we may never know when our last chance to be together may be. I'm thankful for that lesson. Time spent gripping and holding onto that grudge, holding onto that pride and resisting the opportunity to forgive, is all time wasted.
Carpe Diem Domino - Seize the day for the Lord, Christian. Don't let another day go by of holding out on that forgiveness. God will give it to you, if you need it. Don't you love and enjoy His forgiveness towards you?
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Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but until seventy times seven." Matthew 18:21-22